I just discovered that my podcast that I abandoned four years ago has surpassed a million downloads. I had forgotten my login credentials, let the website die, and hadn't thought about the show in years. When I finally managed to login, I learned that 75% of those downloads came after I walked away.

There's a perceived cost to seeking clarification that keeps us locked in these patterns. Asking "what do you mean by that?" can feel like admitting weakness or, worse, giving ground to the other side. In charged conversations (politics, values, identity), the act of asking for context gets coded as taking a position. We've somehow created a culture where knowing the "right" interpretation is a proxy for being on the "right" team.

But democracies, like baseball teams and investing, do not win on highlights alone. They win through institutional health, rule stability, and sustained participation. Zoning boards and school councils are not exciting, but they determine housing, education, and opportunity. Norms around election integrity or judicial independence do not trend on social media, but once weakened, they are extraordinarily difficult to rebuild. Getting the process right is like getting on base.

If caring only activates when harm reaches our inner circle, the foundation is too fragile. Real justice has to function in grey areas—when no one is obviously evil, when rules appear neutral, when harm is diffused across systems rather than delivered by a single hand. The harder question isn't "Do I feel bad for this person?" but "Would I trust this system if I were the most vulnerable person it touched?"

What I learned from getting rid of everything I own.

"The death of one is a tragedy, the death of a million is a statistic."

Our compassion shrinks as the numbers grow.

No one wants to know how the sausage is made...unless they start noticing that every sausage tastes exactly the same.

When judges unknowingly cite fabricated cases, when agencies release doctored videos, when institutions treat AI output as reliable without verification, they're not just making isolated errors. They're normalizing a culture where verification is treated as optional and plausibility trumps truth.

We often treat language as a fixed tool—you either speak it or you don't, you understand or you don't. But my grandparents' experience reveals something more complex. Language is fluid, shaped by history and circumstance. It's an imperfect system we use to capture thoughts and intentions that are always richer than the words themselves.

If your life were a song, what would it be?

When people talk about living a “good life,” the idea is usually centered on one of two paths: the pursuit of happiness or the pursuit of meaning. Happiness, often tied to comfort and pleasant circumstances, can feel fleeting. Meaning, rooted in purpose and service, provides direction and fulfillment. But neither really feel complete. However, I’ve recently discovered a third way: choosing a psychologically rich life.

It’s a familiar feeling: that jarring moment when someone we admire reveals a belief that makes us recoil, makes a mistake that makes us cringe, or when they don’t support something that we believe to be aligned with their values. It takes us by surprise. We’re often shocked. And, we’re often more upset at them than those who have been espousing abhorrent beliefs because they were supposed to be one of the good ones. All of a sudden, that action or belief seems to wipe out years of rapport (or reputation, or brand…call it what you will).

After 200+ Facebook Marketplace transactions (mostly as a seller), I’ve learned a lot—not just about selling stuff, but about people.

小心 or “small heart” isn’t just about avoiding danger. 小心 conveys the idea of being cautious, attentive, or alert, as if you are holding your "heart" in a smaller, more controlled state — not letting it get carried away. It can imply narrowing one’s focus, or restraining impulsiveness, which aligns with the idea of exercising caution. In Chinese culture and language, the "heart" is not just the emotional center but also the seat of intention and thought (similar to the "mind" in English).

While the phrase “America First” has been a recent rallying cry in modern politics and framed as a new approach to U.S. policy, the reality is that this is how we’ve always operated as a country—both domestically and internationally. You can change the rhetoric, but you can’t change the underlying truth: the United States engages with the world in a way that ultimately serve its national interests. It always has and probably always will.

I’ve found striking parallels between language learning and master a musical instrument. Both share a fascinating interplay between technical foundations and practical application, between theory and performance, between solo practice and collaborative expression. And both, often require the involvement of others - a band, if you will - to really soar.

In a world that seeks validation and that treats career milestones as a checklist for “success” or “innovation,” creatives should be vigilant in understanding that success is truly a journey, one built on successful steps, habits, and practices.

If you’re waiting to hear back from a job interview, sales prospect, or a potential date, remember that you can still make progress. Ambitious goals, especially world-changing ones, require both patience and persistence.

Someone recently asked me how I felt about people reacting with, “It’s not my responsibility to teach white people about racism.” This was specifically about the context in the work that I do since I, in fact, do a lot of education around race and identity. And, I’ve had many challenging conversations around identity…

I realized that many artists (and entrepreneurs) focus a lot on taking off: how to build a critical mass for support, launching a new product/album, trying to get attention via social media and/or the press, and so on. In fact, when you look at the long list of consultant services, they’re all focus on growth, expansion, and scaling up. But very few, if any, ever talk about landing from those big moments.