“Is this available?” — Life Lessons from Facebook Marketplace
After 200+ Facebook Marketplace transactions (mostly as a seller), I’ve learned a lot—not just about selling stuff, but about people.
“Is this available?” If you’ve ever listed anything, those three words probably haunt you. It’s the default message buyers send with one lazy click. You want to say "Of course it is, that's why it is being listed!" or just write "yes" only to be answered with silence. I've found a question helps move the conversation a little further: “When would you like to see it?” Life’s like that too: if you want real conversations, you have to figure out a common goal and a shared plan to get there.
Photos matter. Descriptions too. Most listings look like they were shot in a cave and written in a rush. Like a dating website, presentation matters: you are courting the customer. Use good lighting. Include real details. Honesty saves everyone time. If you don’t show that you care, don’t expect anyone to go out of their way for you.
Ghosts are real. A third of buyers disappear after committing. Some even say “on my way” and vanish. It’s frustrating—but a reminder: don’t do this to others. Be clear. Be kind. If you change your mind, just say so. Respect is free and always appreciated.
The price is right. If you price something too high, no one bites. Too low, and people wonder what's wrong with it. Do your research first. In other words, know your worth in life, but stay grounded. Confidence matters, but so does realism. The sweet spot is where you're valued and still approachable.
Respond Promptly. On Marketplace, quick replies often lead to successful deals (for both buyers and sellers). Delay too long, and everyone moves on. In relationships, opportunities, or friendships, timing matters. People feel seen when you show up consistently and in a timely way. People are busy and those who take the time and courtesy to communicate well will be more likely to get the respect they’re hoping for.
First Come, First Served…Unless There’s a Better Fit. Sometimes you hold something for someone because they asked first—but someone else would follow through faster. Other times, that person falls through altogether and while you’re busy holding that item for someone, buyers are moving on. In life, know that loyalty should be treasured, but don’t confuse it with obligation. It’s okay to prioritize people who respect your time and follow through.
Some Things Just Don’t Sell—And That’s Okay. Not everything finds a new home. Sometimes, you get better value by donating an item rather than selling. Choose your threshold (I don’t list anything under $40 anymore) or you’ll find yourself responding to messages all day for only a few bucks. In other words, let go of what no longer serves you—even if it once meant something. Not everything has to end in a transaction. Closure (and extra space) can be enough.
Selling online is really just people skills in disguise. Show up. Communicate. Be human. The transaction might be small, but the principles aren’t. Always, always show up with the values that you hold dear in whatever space you’re in - Marketplace or not.
